REPLAY: BOTM author KC Davis on boundaries and self-care

Hello everybody,

This week we threw a ‘happy new book baby’ party for our BOTM author, KC Davis, whose new book, Who Deserves Your Love, was published in the US/Canada on 6th May and will be out in the UK 15th May (pre-order your copy now to join our Read-along starting Monday 19th May).

KC is a therapist, speaker, author and social media sensation who is famous for her practical and non-judgemental advice.

She coined the term Struggle Care, teaching her followers how to care for themselves—and be kind to themselves—whatever their struggle and says: “Even when things are hard, you still deserve joy—at home, in relationships, in life.”

IN THIS INTERVIEW:

• Why KC hates the term ‘self-care; (kinda) – KC discusses how important psychological concepts like “boundaries” can lose their original meaning when they enter mainstream conversations, becoming oversimplified or commodified by influencers and brands.

• Boundaries as acts of self-kindness, not rejection – She reframes boundaries not as ways to push others away, but as compassionate tools to protect one's own well-being, emphasising that saying “no” can be an act of love for yourself and others.

• Her personal journey from addiction to self-compassion – KC shares how her early struggles with addiction and trauma shaped her understanding of boundaries, and how learning to care for herself was a key part of healing.

• “Struggle care” as a practical framework – She introduces her concept of “struggle care,” encouraging people to maintain basic self-care even when life feels overwhelming, linking this to boundary-setting as a form of preserving energy and dignity.

• Letting go of perfectionism in boundary-setting – KC encourages readers to reject the idea that boundaries must be perfect, or even liked and accepted by others. Having the courage to be misunderstood and/or disliked, she says, is an act of supreme self-care.

Enjoy. And let us know your takeaways in the Comments…

Toni

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